Changes Coming Soon!


Hi friends! First, I want to say a huge “Thank You!” to everyone who took my survey. I so appreciate your feedback. (If you didn’t get a chance to take it–it’s not too late! Just click here).

And now…I want you guys to be the first to hear about some exciting changes coming to my blog over the next few weeks. Which means it may be offline in between now and then–but don’t worry! I’ll be back! And hopefully the blog will be more helpful to you than ever.

I’m refocusing my writing, trying to get clear about the best way I can serve you, and I’m super excited about this new direction. I’m re-branding and re-launching the blog, and it’s going to be called: Dropping the Act: Because Honest is Better (specific strategies to help you live a more authentic life). The site will have some new features, like quizzes (because who doesn’t love a good quiz?! I know I sure do. Probably a little too much!) and solid action steps you can take after each post to help you live honestly. Some of you who responded to the reader survey said you struggle with authenticity and that you connect with my honesty about things that you wrestle with like doubt, dealing with people, and suffering. I just want to assure you, this new launch will not be a huge departure from what you’re used to reading from me, just a little more focused on helping you get more honest with yourself, God, and other people in your life, with the purpose of strengthening and growing those relationships.

So, here’s your chance to help me shape the new blog! Leave me some comments about topics you’d like to see me cover. And I’ll see you in a few weeks with a brand new look (hopefully it will turn out better than the haircut I got that made me look like a mushroom)! Look for links on Facebook for the new launch and help me spread the word 🙂

Just a small FYI to those of you who currently subscribe to my blog via email–I’m going to try to convert your emails over to the new site so you continue to get updates when I post new content, but you may have to re-sign up! If you want to make sure you don’t miss anything, be sure to follow me on Facebook or Twitter! 🙂

Don’t forget to leave your comments about topics you’re interested in/struggle with, or your thoughts about the new direction I’m headed (positive thoughts only please, I’m not sure I can take any criticism (haha! Just kidding-for real!) Feel free to be honest!!….

Love you guys! And excited to be on this journey with you!

The Long Pause

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Some of you may have noticed I’ve been absent from the blog for a bit–taking a long pause. Rebooting. Catching my breath. I’ve been reading and thinking, wondering and questioning. Mostly about the journey of life and how we can’t control or predict any of it. And how much, sometimes, I wish that weren’t true.

In the vein of adhering to the new tagline of my site, finding beauty in the brokenness of life, I have to be honest. I don’t have it all figured out (insert gasp of surprise here). Lately I’ve been searching for some beauty in my own situation, and realizing that sometimes honesty is the most beautiful thing I can give to you and to myself. When I entered my book into the Re:write writing contest I prayed that God’s ultimate purpose and plan would be done in the process. And I meant it. So I didn’t feel immediately disappointed when I didn’t win, because I trusted that it was God’s plan and he had other things in mind. But as I was coming down from the high of the writer’s conference, some questions and doubts began to nudge their way into the back of my mind, just like a rude line crasher that pushes her way into the line that you’ve been waiting in for 20 minutes while your kids beg you for every piece of candy in the bins by the checkout. Questions like What if I’m just not good enough? or Maybe I’m not ready, or What the heck do I do now? Seriously, what do I do now?

As I pondered these questions one thing became abundantly clear: this writing path is not going to be an easy one. And if I’m being completely transparent I want the easy path, the road with the least amount of roadblocks and hurdles. The one that gets me to my destination without my ever having to break a sweat. Where every door I come upon is swung wide in promise of grander things. The road where I don’t have to pick myself up from the floor most mornings and talk myself off the ledge of despair. What I’m learning is it’s always easier to trust God when it seems like everything is going my way. But this road, the difficult one, where I’m sweating it out like a P90X devotee, is the one where I’m learning even more about trust and I still believe that God has a plan, even if he hasn’t shared it with me yet.

Maybe you can relate.  Maybe you feel stuck and don’t know how to move forward, and if you’re honest, a little (or a lot) disappointed that you have to take the difficult path. How is God building trust in your relationship with him through this? Leave a comment and let me know what you think.

The Gift


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Honesty.  Sometimes, you have to admit, it’s overrated, (and sometimes you just don’t want to be honest, like today, I’m cringing as I write this because I don’t know how people will respond!) but as I was battling anxiety, depression, and feelings of abandonment, I was more honest with God than I had ever been before.  I’d heard my whole life that I needed to pour out my soul to God, tell him anything and everything, but I didn’t think anyone actually meant that.  I mean, are you really supposed to tell God that you feel like you’ve been duped by placing your trust in him?  I felt like a kid who asked for a bike for Christmas and got a package of underwear instead–just underwear (seriously?).  But I was at the bottom of the proverbial barrel, and pretending like everything was good, and I was fine, was not working anymore.  So I let God know (often) that I felt like the Titanic, and I thought he might be the iceberg that had delivered the fatal blow, or at the very least, failed to rescue me. In other words, I thought he was really blowing it.

But somewhere in the back of my mind, I think I knew I didn’t have the whole story; and when I met “Jane,” my counselor, some pieces of that story began to fall into place.  During one of our very first conversations after she listened to my story, we were sitting in Jane’s SUV in front of a strip mall in Chiang Mai, and she looked at me and said, “You’ve been given a gift.  Now you just have to figure out how to unwrap it.”  It was the last thing I expected to hear, and really, I thought she might be a little crazy.  But I was willing to listen to how she thought all of this might actually end up being a gift.